My Camino Angel. |
After we returned home I realized that continuing our communication would be hard on Gen. Some of her Facebook posts were full of melancholy and depression. I chose to distance myself. I kept any communication between us brief. We still 'liked' each other's posts and we left comments at times but you could feel the distance grow. I found out recently that she too had consciously decided to distance herself from me at nearly the same time wanting her image of me to be unchanged from what she had on the Camino.
Over the last three years we often went months without exchanging more than a 'like'. I lost myself in the infernal game and preparation for the Appalachian Trail (AT). Gen made new friends centered around Big Brother fandom on Twitter. We both distracted ourselves. Even so, she was always on the periphery of my life and I imagine I was there on hers.
This summer we started talking a little bit more. She would leave comments about the South American trip. Early in September, as she prepared for a trip to Germany and Iceland, we talked about the AT. We always had planned to meet up somewhere along the trail. We settled on a preliminary plan for her meeting me in Maine. She would hike the last ten days with me. Four weeks later, only a few days after returning from Iceland, she went to the hospital.
Five days later, Gen was diagnosed with aggressive liver cancer. She was given a 10% chance of survival. A few days later I flew to Montreal and visited with her at the hospital. During the two days I was there most of the news went from bad to worse. She was told, on average, she should expect to live another three to four months. The cancer was aggressive. A few days before Thanksgiving Gen was told that she had two ... maybe four weeks tops. I'd planned to visit her again in early December - I had the plane tickets - but this bad news sped things up for me. The day after Thanksgiving she moved out of her parents home into hospice.
On Tuesday morning, the day before I was planning to fly to Montreal, I received the dreaded email. The hospice nurses did not expect Gen to survive the day. Gen's father gave me his phone number and I was able, between tears, to say my goodbyes to her. She was too weak to speak but they said you could see in her eyes that she heard me. She passed away late Tuesday night. 😢
Gen and her parents - she was an only child - did not deserve this. She was only forty years old. She had so many years ahead of her. There were so many places she had to visit, so many people to meet, and so many things to experience. Not a day has gone by since all this started that I haven't thought about her. Every little thing reminds me of her. Anything remotely Camino related - walking, sunrises, sunsets - takes my thoughts to Geneviève. Everytime I see something of beauty my only thoughts are: "Gen will never see this. Gen will never experience this." She deserved so much more.
Geneviève
January 9, 1976 - November 29, 2016
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I once thought the Camino had changed me but I was only half right. Geneviève was my Camino. Meeting her made me better. I miss her, I always will, and I will never forget her. Goodnight Gen. Pleasant dreams.